…Started in the
unlikeliest of places, Whittier
Alaska . My roommate and I were out for a walk one
evening when we passed by the boat harbor and a blue eyed dog started following
us. Since Whittier is such a small community I did not
worry about her finding her home. After
awhile a black Mazda pickup drove past, the blue eyed dog took off after
it. When the driver noticed the dog
running he stopped and climbed out to let her in, I was to far down the road to
see or talk to the driver. Two days
later I went down to the internet and cable shop to pick up the router box for
internet in the apartment my roommate and I just moved into. I knocked on the door waiting for someone to
answer little did I know there would be a surprise behind that door. A very handsome young man answered my
knock. I almost missed his name when he
introduced himself I was to busy thinking how cute he was. He also introduced his dog which to my great
surprise was the very same blue eyed dog that joined me on my walk a few nights
ago. I finally had a name for her and
her owner, Bathsheba and Glenn. I
visited with Glenn for a little bit while he gathered my router box and cables. He told me I was welcome to walk Bathsheba
whenever I wanted. I thought that sounded
like a great idea, and one I was going to take him up on.
Once
I got Glenn’s phone number I was calling almost daily to walk his dog. After every walk he would take the time to
visit with me for awhile. About three
weeks later I had to fly home for a family emergency. Glenn found out about it and was eager to do
what he could he help. He was quick to offer a ride to the airport. I already had one but told him I may need a
ride back to Whittier when I fly back, he agreed to give me a ride all I had to
do was let him know when to pick me up.
About a week later, April
27 2008 , Glenn picked me up from the airport. While deplaning I was talking to Glenn on the
phone and he was telling me about his plans to move to Southeast
Alaska in January. I remember
thinking; this guy is going to break my heart someday. Little did I know just
how that would happen. He took me out
for a late lunch at the Peanut Farm on the drive down to Whittier he began to
tell me about his past and how he ended up in Whittier and his long road to
becoming the man he was. I was blown
away by his story, here was an amazing, generous, caring, honorable, and an
honest to goodness southern gentleman sitting next to me in the car who had at
one point been a homeless alcoholic and drug addict. But that was old Glenn and this was new Glenn,
who had turned his life around and over to God.
He liked new Glenn very much, and so did I. As we were waiting for the tunnel into Whittier to open Glenn
asked if I would like to go out with him sometime for coffee now that I knew
all about his past, which was all information he felt I needed to know before
he asked so that I could make an informed decision. I suggested we go to Chair 5 for dinner on
May first since that was when the tunnel started their extended hours. So our official first date was set for the
first of May, I was really looking forward to it.
After
that day when Glenn picked me up from the airport we started spending nearly
every evening together mostly just walking and talking. Our first date might have been the first of
May but in actuality we started dating the day he picked me up from the
airport. We stared spending all of our
spare time together: we would go for walks, take his boat out in Prince William Sound and pull shrimp pots for
supper. We were content to just be with
each other.
After
five weeks of dating Glenn was getting ready to go to Ruby Alaska to build a
garage for the company he worked for.
Two days before he left he went into Anchorage to get a few things he was going to
need. After supper that night Glenn went
downstairs to get something out of the truck, he came back with a small wrapped
package and told me he found a necklace in town for me. Well, when I opened the box inside was not
necklace in there but a ring! In fact
when I open the box I said that isn’t a necklace, Glenn said I know I lied. He asked me to marry him. He said that he loved me and wanted to spend
the rest of his life with me, he wanted the third and final chapter of his life
to be Glenn and Rachel. He said he did
not expect me to answer right away, I could wait to give him an answer two days
or two years he didn’t care he just wanted me to know where he was at and where
he wanted our relationship to go. I was
speechless, and a bit shocked, mostly because I was expecting a necklace
instead of a ring. I was not shocked
that he was asking because I always knew he would ask I just never thought it
would be right before he left for the summer.
I did not give him an answer that night, I did make him wait. Not because I didn’t want to marry him
because I did. I just wanted to see how
we handled being apart for most of the summer before I gave him an answer. Glenn flew home from Ruby in mid June to help
the mission group that came from Austin Texas to work on the church cabin, and
he was home again in early August for a little bit while my dad was visiting,
otherwise he was gone until September.
In late October or early November I gave him back my engagement
ring. Glenn asked why was giving it to
him, I told him to ask again. He got the
answer he was looking for that time.
Glenn was so thrilled (as was I) he stated that everything was going to
be okay because I would be with him.
In
January 2009 we quit our jobs packed up our cars and headed on a cross country
trip starting in Whittier AK down the west coast to San Diego CA ,
across to Miami FL , then back up through the Midwest , and ended in Gustavus Alaska , our new home. We got on the ferry in Whittier with two fully loaded cars and an 80
lb dog. Glenn’s car we left in Juneau for the three
months we were going to be down south and used my car for the 11,000 mile
journey. It was a great trip we visited
many great places as well as lots of friends and family. Occasionally people would call and check in
with us to see where we were or if we had killed each other. We just laughed. We never fought once on that trip, it was a
great adventure. We knew it would be a
breeze to be cooped up in my little fully loaded Subaru with a large dog. My mother told me if we still thought getting
married after that trip was a good idea then it probably was a good idea. After that trip I was even more certain than
ever that it truly was a best decision I ever made to accept Glenn’s proposal
of marriage.
Glenn and I were
married on October 4th
2009 on the Mississippi River in a
paddle wheel boat out of La Crosse
WI . We decided it would be easier for everyone if
the two of us flew down instead of everyone flying up. Since we were not getting
married in Alaska
we wanted to get married on the water.
The weather that day was a typically damp, chilly, gray, and overcast Southeast Alaska day.
It was nothing like an early October day in Wisconsin should be. We laughed and told everyone we had to bring
a part of Alaska
to our wedding. Our wedding day was the
happiest day of my life. I had
absolutely no reservations about marrying Glenn. If fact the only time I was nervous or had
butterflies that day was the two or so hours we spent apart before our
ceremony. As soon as he left to go to
church I started to get nervous, and it got worse as I went to get my hair and
make-up done. All it took to calm my
nerves was to simply seeing him standing there waiting for me and looking very
handsome in his suit. It literally was
like someone flipped a switch in my gut.
I instantly felt better just be seeing him. Later on I told Glenn it, he said that was
exactly how he felt too.
After being
married for six months Glenn was diagnosed with cancer on a Thursday by Tuesday
he had surgery and Friday he was home again cancer free. That was a terrifying experience. Lucky it was caught early and action was
taking fast enough that the tumor was remove with surgery. He was one of the lucky few that only needed
surgery and no further treatment was needed besides yearly check ups to make
sure the cancer had not returned. Once
we survived that scare we figured we were good to go for the next twenty to
thirty years at least. How naive of us,
if anything else it should have reaffirmed how precious every moment really is.
For us it was such a short whirlwind of an experience that it didn’t seem all
that real other then the scar he had from the surgery to remind us both it was
real and it did actually happen.
We have spent the
last couple of years planning out our home and this past winter on Christmas
Day we laid down the first stick of lumber on the foundation of our home. We spent everyday this winter, no matter what
the weather, building our home. By the
middle of March we had 800 square feet framed, dried in, and a roof on. Not to bad for only two people, of which only
one was a skilled carpenter. This summer
I have another 300 square feet to pour cement for, frame, and roof. The amazing and wonderful community of
Gustavus wants to do a barn raising weekend and finish our home for me. It is going to a beautiful home I am looking
forward to being able to move into the home that Glenn and I worked so hard
on.
Around
11:30 on Thursday morning April 26 2012 , my worst
nightmare became a reality. I was at
work when I heard the 911 tones on the radio. I stopped to listen to what was
going on. When I heard the voice on the
radio I thought that is odd. Glenn is
working there today I wonder what is happening, and then she said Glenn was lying
on the ground motionless. I backup up
from the radio so fast as if I had been bitten.
My coworker was standing by me she said I needed to leave I needed to go
there now. I could hardly move but she
got me moving to the jeep. She drove to
town and where Glenn was. I was praying
so hard the whole way there. I kept
hoping he would be sitting up and annoyed that everyone was fussing over him,
but then I heard the request for an immediate med-evac. I knew then that it was so much worse then
that. When we got there I jumped out of
the car and ran across the street. I saw
people performing CPR on my husband, I nearly collapsed my legs gave out from
under me. The district ranger for the
park was already on scene when we got there and he caught me and told me it was
very bad but they were doing everything they possibly could to save Glenn. He had me go back to the car to wait, and he
would keep me updated. It seemed like I
waited an eternity before my boss and the district ranger came to tell me that
Glenn was gone. My world had suddenly
shattered into a million pieces. The
community of Gustavus has surrounded me with love and support which has been
amazing and very helpful. I am so very
grateful that we chose to make Gustavus our home, we couldn’t have picked a
better place.
If I had known
four years ago what I know now I would have still said yes to that first date. To miss out on all the wonderful things we did
and the love we shared would just not be an option. Not everyone is as lucky as we were. Most people do not meet the love of their
lives, we did. Glenn recognized it
sooner than I did, but on some level I always knew. It just took a little bit for my brain to
catch on to what my soul already knew.
It truly is better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at
all, no matter how clichéd that is I know for a fact it is true. Four years is better than none at all and I
thank God everyday that I was blessed with four amazing years. I also find myself asking why we were only
given four, when we wanted so much more.
Even though losing my best friend, husband, and soul mate is the single
most painful and gut wrenching thing I will ever experience I would not have
traded the last four years if my life, for anything because my life would never
have been complete without Glenn. I take
great comfort in the fact that we made each other very happy, and he may not be
here on Earth anymore but I know he is looking down from Heaven and watching
over me and he lives in my heart and in the hearts of everyone who knew and
loved him. I will see him again someday
when I am called home to be with the Lord.
I find peace in that knowledge and I hang on to it with every fiber of
my being, and I am look forward to that day when I will join Glenn in Heaven. I truly believe he was an angel here among
us. Just looking around our small
community I see the pieces of himself he left all around town in the work that
he did. And in the packed church during
the celebration of his life I could clearly see that in all the lives he
touched. I plan to honor his memory by
completing our home, going on that vacation we were planning this winter, and
going back to school to get my masters and PhD like we had planned.
Thank you Lord for
the gift that we were all given by knowing and loving Glenn. He truly was a man
of God, and I am truly blessed and extremely proud to be Glenn’s wife.
My husband, Glenn Chunn, died eight weeks ago today. I continue to miss his terribly but I keep going one day at a time just like he would wish. Today is one of the first sunny days we have had here in Gustavus since he died, I bet he had something to do with that. He will be with me always and someday I will be with him again.
Thanks for reading my blog. I know it has been a long time since I last posted I am going to try and post regularly again.
R. A. Chunn
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